LESSONS IN LOVE
FOR 2010
Like many of you, on the first day back
at the desk, I am struggling to get into it. There are
some changes in my life that will affect this site during
2010, but I will tell you about that tomorrow. The galleries
too, will be back tomorrow. I promise!
For today, I want to share with you an
article that I wrote last year.
I wrote this article on 31 December, while
reflecting on the past year.
In fact, while reflecting on the past three years.
At the end of 2006, I was at the top of
my game.
I was the general manager of one of the country’s
top entertainment venues, the producer of some of the
top events in Cape Town, and generally very well-connected
in the entertainment industry.
I had hundreds of friends. Everyone wanted
to be my friend.
In retrospect, because I could organise free entrance
to the main clubs and complimentary tickets and VIP invitations
to the premier events. I could facilitate introductions
to celebs and string-pullers, and I could even arrange
free drinks at the bar.
My phone rang continuously, day and night, and when I
gave a party it was a gathering of the who’s who
of the Cape Town entertainment industry.
In January 2007, I decided to eventually
start my own company.
I knew from the start that it would not be easy, but when
the recession hit us it turned out to be much harder than
I anticipated.
Three years later, I am finally beginning
to see a faint light at the end of what turned out to
be a very long and dark tunnel
Three years later, the only people that
ever call me are family, or new business associates.
I do not have a single friend left.
Not one.
There is a lesson to be learnt
in everything that happens to us in life, and I want to
take this opportunity to thank my ex-friends from the bottom
of my heart for the valuable lesson that they have taught
me.
Your
friendship is a boat large enough for two in fair
weather but only big enough for one when the weather
turns foul. |
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This year, as I frantically row towards
the light at the end of the tunnel at peace with the universe,
and myself, I know that my boat is large, and it does not
shrink when the weather turns foul.
Even though the hurt sometimes still evokes anger, I am
so proud of my large all-weather boat.
Everyone is welcome to hop on board.
But, if you were previously a passenger
on this boat, I should tell you that I had a gangplank installed
for this cruise.
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And
I will probably put it to good use when we reach shark
infested rough seas. |
I am an authentic and compassionate human
being, but I am after all human.
Kader Khan
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Monday 4 January 2009 
